Forgive and forget… it’s not that easy


Photographer: Deisy Roman

Andreia Sales, Arts & Entertainment Reporter

Forgiveness is a one-step action can be one of the hardest things to do. How does one forgive? Should we forgive? Why do we forgive? Most people don’t really know, but sometimes, some things just need to be gotten over with.

Forgiveness is a strange thing. People are hurt by others, then expected to simple forgive and move on. Most students at Don Lugo have said that it depends on what the other person did in order to forgive them. Senior Dahlia Huezo shares how she experienced a situation 4 years ago in which her best friend betrayed her (which is too personal to go into detail), and they grew apart- they stopped talking. Dahlia says she felt betrayed leading to the reason why she hasn’t been able to forgive. She says that she will forgive her friend as soon as she is given the chance.

According to the Psychology Today website, author Andrea Brandt in her article, “How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible?,” shares her perspective on feeling how forgiving can feel impossible. “By forgiving, you let go of your grievances and judgments and allow yourself to heal.”

“Forgiveness isn’t something you do for the other person.”    -Andrea Brandt

As teenagers continue to grow, it can sometimes be hard to understand how to forgive and actually mean it. According to Carl E. Pickhardt’s article “Adolescence and Forgiveness,” teens can be hesitant to forgive because they are still developing.

After knowing what forgiveness isn’t, it may seem a bit easier to know how to forgive someone. Yes, it may feel like a person doesn’t deserve forgiveness, but once it’s done, it’s such a relief knowing that the person won’t be occupying the mind.